- Mr K S Presentation To The World Was Florid Showy And Brash With Authority And Self Assurance When Discussing Issues 1 (115.35 KiB) Viewed 348 times
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Mr. K's presentation to the world was florid, showy, and brash with authority and self assurance when discussing issues he cared about. He was a shrewd business man with amazing salesman abilities, sometimes just circumventing dishonesty. His carriage and girth, scrous profanity, appearance of social success and command hid much of his emotional vulnerability. He wanted others to think of him as powerful and wealthy, a respected, brilliant leader in his community. Whereas he had talents, he could never actually acquire the heights of his fantasy life. His manner included a mixture of arrogant pride, a need to dominate, command, and inform which often alienated others. He possessed, as well, genuine wit and humor, and social gregariousness. The youngest of 13 children, he had endured a childhood of deprivation, neglect, and physical abuse. He was raised in an impoverished, "filthy," chaotic household, filled with many older siblings who fought, hit, cursed each other, mercilessly teased, tricked, and denigrated him, and in general, intruded upon one another. There was no household schedule, no emphasis on cleanliness and physical care, no consistent place to sleep, no reliable mealtimes, and no clothes belonging exclusively to him. He vividly remembers a space alongside the kitchen where leftover food and trash would accumulate, until it was overwhelming. Rodents and roaches would roam until someone, often him, would shovel out the garbage. Mr. K.'s mother, an uneducated woman, was filled with primitive superstitions, as well as, desperate, grasping, financial needs, mainly to preserve her soul. When she could not cope she became hysterical and resorted to beatings. His father worked long hours, spent time away from the home in the evenings and was essentially unavailable. His mother was oppressed by the number of children under her care and she appeared to have little left emotionally for her last-born child. He told me that he could remember tugging at his mother's skirts as a child, pulling on her sleeve, and pestering her with whiney insistence that sometimes reached tantrum proportions when he needed her attention. He had an early memory of her "sticking bread in his mouth" when he was upset. A later variant of his mother's reaction to him occurred when he was somewhat older and she couldn't manage his neediness. Her wish not to be bothered by him led her to "throw money at him." He would spend it on sweets, and when he could, extend it to treating his friends. His futile attempts to engage her occasionally and his mother's indifference resulted in a turn from her to his self-reliance at a very young age. Although he was clearly smart and capable of good logical thinking with a rapid command of computation, he was a poor, failing student. He left school by the 8th grade. He couldn't sit still and couldn't concentrate. He recognized he couldn't stay in one job for very long. ar involve himself with men or women for any length, or tolerate the children he had sired in his brief marriage. Mr. K feels like he doesn't need others and was contemptuous and suspicious of most. People. were "out to scam him or rip him off." He was proud of "never letting himself get f---d," and being a man knowledgeable about the harsh, cruel, dog-eat-dog world, always anticipating the Willia
actions of "ball-breakers," the "c-k suckers," and "exploiters" those searching for "the edge" over him. He told me that even so-called close friends-business partners "scammed him" because "they were out for themselves." Discussion
Questions Drawing on the above case study and our lecture on Attachment, please answer the below
questions to the best of your ability. 1. Describe Mr. K's mother's parenting behaviors 2. Describe Mr. K's relationship with his mother 3. Describe Mr. K's professional relationships 4. Describe Mr. K's romantic relationships 5. Describe Mr. K's relationship with his own children 6. Based on your responses to
questions 1-5, classify Mr. K's attachment type according to Ainsworth's theory. Please be sure to explain your reasoning with examples.